Few industries have faced as many emotional and financial shocks as hospitality — from the 2008 recession to the pandemic and the rise of climate-driven disruptions. Yet through all this turbulence, one factor continues to separate exceptional hospitality organizations from the rest: emotional intelligence in leadership and service.

According to Dr. Travis Bradberry, emotional intelligence (EQ) is “your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.” In hotels and resorts worldwide, studies show that higher EQ among staff directly correlates with better service quality, stronger engagement, and higher guest satisfaction. Employees with high EQ not only respond to guests’ needs — they anticipate them, creating experiences that foster loyalty and trust even in times of crisis.

The Biltmore Estate: A Living Legacy of Emotional Intelligence

An inspiring example of emotional intelligence in hospitality leadership is found at the Biltmore Estate in Asheville, North Carolina. Built in 1895 by George Vanderbilt, this 250-room French chateau anchors an 8,000-acre estate and remains privately owned by his descendants. Despite more than a century of economic and social change, Biltmore has preserved both its beauty and profitability through one simple principle: leading with empathy and care.

Anna Sullins, Director of Learning and Development at Biltmore, explains: “Considering we are in the hospitality industry, emotional intelligence is just integral to what we do. It’s part of our culture.” Employees even refer to one another as internal guests, reflecting a shared belief that hospitality begins within. This mindset transforms daily work into a culture of mutual respect — one where everyone, from housekeepers to executives, feels valued and connected to the estate’s mission.

Teaching Emotional Intelligence from the Top

At Biltmore, emotional intelligence training isn’t a compliance box to check — it’s a leadership cornerstone. The company’s Executive Officer, Stephen Watson, personally teaches a cornerstone course in social and emotional intelligence to all managers and directors. His approach blends lived experience with practical reflection. “We talk about real moments — the Great Recession, the pandemic, Hurricane Helene,” Watson says. “During the pandemic, fear was everywhere. So we talk about fear, and also about faith — not religious faith, but a positive view of the future.”

This top-down commitment signals something rare in business: that empathy and composure are strategic competencies, not soft skills. Watson’s workshops are conversational and interactive, using small groups to discuss real scenarios. This Socratic approach builds trust, fosters peer learning, and reinforces that EQ isn’t a theory — it’s a shared daily practice that drives resilience, innovation, and team performance.

Emotional Intelligence: The Quiet Advantage of Great Leaders

Watson’s personal EQ philosophy can be summed up simply: calm is contagious. “If the worst news in the world hits you, just be quiet,” he advises. “See the problem as it is — no worse, no better. Then ask: how can this benefit us?” That mindset helped Biltmore not only survive but thrive during crises — including the pandemic, when reduced operations unexpectedly led to record success.

More than a century since its founding, Biltmore’s culture of emotional intelligence continues to sustain its mission: to keep the estate open to the public, in pristine condition, and owned by the descendants of George Vanderbilt. In an era when technology evolves faster than human connection, Biltmore proves that emotional intelligence remains the timeless cornerstone of great hospitality.