In leadership, emotions aren’t weaknesses—they’re signals. In her book Emotionally Charged, co-authored with Alicia A. Grandey, executive coach Dina Denham Smith reveals how leaders can recognize, regulate, and leverage emotions to strengthen relationships, motivate teams, and protect their own well-being. With over 25 years of experience in business and organizational psychology, Smith has seen firsthand how unmanaged emotions can erode leadership impact—and how mastering them can transform your leadership brand.

The Hidden Cost of Suppressing Emotions

Many leaders are taught to “keep it together” at all costs. Smith warns that constant emotional suppression not only distances leaders from their teams, but also harms mental and physical health. The “grin and bear it” approach creates emotional labor—acting fine when you’re not—that drains energy and accelerates burnout. The pressure to perform flawlessly, even in stressful moments, puts leaders in a double bind: they can’t show vulnerability, yet they’re expected to manage the emotional dynamics of their teams. Without tools to process their own feelings, stress compounds until it affects decision-making, relationships, and overall performance.

Tools to Regulate Your Emotions

According to Smith, regulating emotions starts with recovery—especially after a difficult moment. If you’ve lost your cool, start with self-compassion. Accept that mistakes happen, take a breath, and focus on what you can learn.

• Reflect: Identify your emotional triggers and why you responded the way you did. Use journaling or a trusted peer conversation to gain clarity.

• Reframe: Replace harsh self-criticism with constructive thinking. Instead of dwelling on the outburst, tell yourself, “Now I know my triggers, and I can prepare for them next time.”

• Restore: Build recovery time into your schedule. Even microbreaks—grabbing water, stepping outside, or simply pausing—can reset your energy and prevent emotional overload.

Why Restoration is Essential for Leaders

Smith stresses that restoration isn’t optional—it’s the foundation of emotional stability. A leader’s day is often overscheduled from early meetings to late-night responsibilities, leaving little room for rest. Without intentional downtime, leaders operate in a constant state of depletion. Small restorative actions, done regularly, help break overworking patterns and make it easier to respond with clarity instead of reactivity. Over time, these pauses can protect against burnout and keep leaders at their best.

Managing Emotions to Strengthen Leadership

Leaders juggle deliverables, team performance, and personal career growth—but their greatest challenge is managing themselves. As Smith puts it, “If you don’t manage your emotions, they’ll manage you.” By treating emotions as data, rather than disruptions, leaders can navigate challenges more effectively, inspire confidence, and sustain long-term success. The ability to stay grounded, even under pressure, is what sets the most respected leaders apart—and it’s a skill that can be learned