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School wasn't my forte. Average grades plagued me from middle school through college. Despite genuine effort, STEM concepts eluded me, and I lacked the typical "successful" traits: charisma, confidence, or genius-level intelligence. My job applications after college yielded nothing. I knew I needed a different approach—a "third door."

Finding the "Third Door" into Big Tech

Alex Banayan's book, "The Third Door," became my game-changer. It describes three ways to enter an exclusive nightclub: the main line, the VIP entrance, and the "third door"—an unconventional, often overlooked path. This concept revolutionized my approach to problem-solving and ultimately helped me land lead roles at Google and Meta.

1. Creating "Magnets" to Attract Decision-Makers

Struggling to get noticed, I stopped trying to fit into existing structures. Instead of seeking invitations to exclusive events, I created my own. I hosted dinners, created my own platform to speak alongside influential leaders, and focused on creating value that would attract the people I wanted to meet.

2. Leveraging Speed of Execution as a Competitive Advantage

My speed of execution became a key differentiator. A 10-second email reply landed me a CEO internship. At Facebook and Google, my quick responses led to opportunities on high-visibility projects. Being faster is an easy way to stand out.

3. Investing in Decade-Long Relationships, Not Transactions

While many focus on short-term connections, I prioritized building long-term relationships. Even after rejections, I maintained contact, offered value, and nurtured connections. My roles at Facebook and Google stemmed from long-term relationships built through cold outreach and mentorship.

4. Giving Without Expectation of Return

Volunteering my time became my "Trojan horse." In my early 20s, I offered my help to startup CEOs, gaining valuable experience and building my personal brand as a helpful and driven individual.

The "Third Door" to Success

These four strategies helped me access opportunities, build relationships with tech leaders, and break into Big Tech despite average grades and a lack of a standout resume. I'm an average person who found success by discovering unconventional advantages.